by Gnostic » Sun Mar 03, 2013 7:29 pm
I don't believe in "gender roles". No such thing. Maybe there was back in the 50's with the barefoot/pregnant wife thing, but thankfully for women that's long gone.
What there is however is negotiation and compromise. Just like running any enterprise. If one party doesn't want to do something, they should be willing to sit at the table and discuss what else they could do the other party doesn't want to do and do that instead. If you don't like cooking, fine. Then get out and shovel snow, or wash the dishes, or scrub the bathroom. IMO it's wrong for any man or woman to simply state they won't do some domestic chore or other because it's not their gender role to do it. And even if you don't enjoy cooking, it's a very nice gesture to at least try once in awhile. Pick up a cookbook, make a fabulous meal, set the candles and music and wait for her to come home kind of thing, etc.
A relationship is an absolute two-way street. Just because you are sporting a different set of genitals doesn't bar you from helping out with anything.